It has really been a very long time, since I last wrote on this blog. Part of me has been busy with various matters, such as preparing necessary visa paperwork for a move, work, and also, travel. The other part was reflecting and writing on my more ‘light-hearted’ and somewhat more non-religious-themed blog about things going on.

Events of the last few months and the last half a year have richochetted to this extent of realizations about the way I am supposed to behave as a Christian versus the way the world expects us to. Often, you can expect many people to have pre-conceptions of Christians and the moment that they know you are a Christian, they will have certain expectations of you, such as that you “will be hateful” towards those who are not, that you oppose certain issues that are ongoing in this world as part of the culture wars.

I had gotten into a serious argument with someone, a homosexual friend, who overreacted to a blog entry which I had written about my personal experiences as a man with getting sexually harassed by gay men, and he instantly took issue with my blog entry. For those who are trying to understand the nature of how that conflict even got started, see the blog entry at!/2013/03/compliment-or-insult-ill-let-you-decide.html. I guess that everything we write has that capacity to be received personally by people with social ideologies as part of their baggage, and I do not pretend any illusion of sanctimoniousness or superiority. Yet, one knows that when one was by far the person not treated rightly, because he was harassed even after he has stated that he is not interested in what he was propositioned with(basically various forms of homosexual sex and sexual offers in other areas), he cannot back down and apologize, because it is simply not right to condone evil or wrongdoing. Christ wants us all as Christians to live at peace with everyone else as far as it is possible (Romans 12:18). Note, the last clause of this admonishment in the verse is “as far as it is possible”(or something akin to that strength of statement), therefore implying that sometimes, it is not possible to, because we will run into conflicts with people on some necessary counts as a result of totally different and irreconciliable values.

What that homosexual friend had insisted as a wrongheaded accusation against me is that I am homophobic because I wrote a blog entry about homosexual men harassing me. I took serious issues with it because it implies that homosexual men are the “victims” all the time, and that they can do no wrong because they are gays. Society has really evolved a lot—whether for the better or worse—but homosexuals cannot simply just claim that they are the bullied minority anymore, at least not with the various gay rights advocacy groups fighting on their behalf. In some extreme cases, although not all gay rights groups are like that, some gay rights groups and gay rights activists work their cause for gay rights by attacking blatantly what they deem to be against them, such as calling Christians names, burning churches and even outrightly taking a few random cases of Christians who fall into some sin to attack the WHOLE religion. If one reads my paragraph carefully, one will know that I use “some”. On no occasion have I used “all”, but that homosexual friend was pushing his case too hard, and obviously, it was a siege mentality at work there. I got quite angry admittedly, which I might not have needed to, but in the end, told him to “get over [his] own sexuality” and also his siege mentality. I actually had no other means but to use the ‘broken record’ method on him, since he was the one painting me out to be ‘biased’. When, may I ask, has a confession of personal experiences with harassment by gay men ever became a discrimination against the WHOLE social group? It baffles me. The conversation obviously had to break in the end, since he became quite accusatory by saying mean things such as “Go ahead and be disappointed. The decibel of your expressions is deafening and telling” or “Your walls of denial are up”.  

I really cannot handle such confrontational behavior from people, especially when the conversation is simply triggered off by him misreading stuff and taking it all so personally. It is very much a common thing in North America, I guess, where if you say anything as much as related to issues involved in the culture wars, if you do not fall into the liberal camp, you get called names such as a member of a “hate group”, “hateful” and so on. Honestly, I probably should not even indulge him and his siege mentality one bit, and should have cut him off way way earlier with absolute silence, since that is what he is thinking of, that I am biased towards ALL gays, when it is none of the matter, and has nothing to do with the issue at all(which was about harassment).

In retrospect, perhaps being able to reflect upon the Beatitudes really will place all these in perspective. Christ was not technically a “nice guy” the way that many liberal gay rights group made him out to be. To begin with, He was a very firm guy, because which guy would actually challenge the malpractices of making God’s temple a place of buying and selling by driving the tax collectors and sellers out of the outer courts, unless He really was infuriated by the injustices going on right under God’s nose (pardon that rather physical metaphor on my part)? Just as it is wrong to portray Christians as evil, it is equally wrong to portray Christ as a ‘everything goes’ type of guy. It simply is not true.

Christ’s words about being a Christian and accused of various things as one would be called to my mind as I think about it (Matthew 5:3-12):

3Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

4Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

5Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.

6Blessed are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness,

for they will be filled.

7Blessed are the merciful, for they shall be shown mercy.

8Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.

9Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the sons of God.

10Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

11Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you

I came across this other verse which puts forth this need to live our lives righteously regardless of accusations by non-believers against us. This makes perfect sense in the light of what happened:

 “Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.” (I Peter 2:12)


The main point is this probably: sometimes, trying to prove a point or to try explaining to people who have already deemed us to be ‘wrong’ or ‘hateful’ when it is not the case might not actually work out, and we might even get accused of things which are not true. But as much as we want to maintain blamelessness, the greater focus should be on living our lives to be good Christians, so that people will have nothing to say against God.