I read a phrase by John Piper once (or some other evangelical Christian preacher) who calls social networking like Facebook and myspace “relational porn”(as in,pornography). What he claims in this is simply that because the relationships online are mostly not real and not face-to-face and can bring you away sometimes from the real and actual world, when you interact with people whom you rarely or might never see, it becomes a relationship with an image or an idea. That kind of connection is in itself a relationship with a ‘fantasy’. I posted a simple tag post about me needing a haircut, and then the next moment, this one acquaintance whom I barely know except as a friend’s friend responded with a great deal of less-than-ideal curtness that seemed inappropriate, reading what was not inside my tag into it. (My friend Pamela back in Calgary, whom I always attend the same church with and then get out with to do shopping or to have lunch sometimes, introduced her to me, since she knew that I wanted to work in Japan and Korea, and thought that knowing more friends would be good. ). As it turns out though, the response was totally out of proportion and sounded as if she had totally read something which had not existed at all. For example, she said, “Kevin, I think you should not waste your time and energy on wishing for things which you do not have , and should enjoy what you can have in here. From what I understand you like Korea very much and are proud of it. But you came here to Aichi to work for money. You should stop complaining and enjoy what you have here.” See, isn’t this relational porn, insofar as she is projecting an image of me which was not the case, of someone who was unhappy in Japan and hated it, when it was far from the matter, and when I was merely planning a holiday (possibly) with friends whom I have known a long time from former travels who want to go to Korea in March?

As far as it concerns me, I deleted that post and her response, since it seemed more inappropriately silly and bizarre. I do not even want to figure out why she is talking like that. Maybe she has had a bad day today, or maybe she assumed things which were not there. Either way, the truth is, it has always been my dream to go to Korea. There is nothing wrong with wishing for something which has been a dream since my 20’s, and I have always wanted to marry a Korean wife too, and make handsome and beautiful little Korean babies…sorry to be rather explicit in all these details, but seriously, what is wrong with working towards a dream? Before someone online whom I barely know beyond a few chats says anything, which I have however relegated to the realm of a “restricted profile” access, I guess my dreams are still what I am working towards! Hwaiting! You know that a dream is a dream, when no matter what people say of them, you are even more fired up to achieve it against all odds.

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